Money Management Tips for Blended Families

How to Navigate Financial Dynamics When Merging Two Families into One

Money Management Tips for Blended Families

Identify the Challenges

Let’s begin by reviewing some of the common challenge areas you may face as you and your new spouse join your lives together, finances included:

  • Money values
  • Spending habits
  • Financial philosophies
  • Kids and money (chores, allowances, savings accounts, and more)

It’s important to remember that money matters are very much tied to our emotions, so it’s natural if you are feeling these sorts of challenges very deeply. In order to preserve – and strengthen – the health of your marriage, here are the steps I recommend taking.

Step 1: Get Really Honest

Before getting married is the ideal time to have an honest financial conversation with your significant other, though you can certainly lay all these cards on the table after you’ve tied the knot, too. You want to get an understanding of what each of you is bringing into the marriage financially – for better or for worse. Share your financial backgrounds with one another, talk about your current situation, including any credit card debt or student loans, and lay out your personal financial goals for the future, too.

If one or both of you are paying child support, discuss these specifics. Child support payments often mean a smaller pot of money to support the needs and goals of the new family unit, and it’s important that both spouses understand this ahead of time.

SEE ALSO: Families and Finances: Communication is Key

In essence, you want to be sure that neither spouse will be subject to any financial surprises.

Step 2: Consider Whether a Prenup is Right for You

Some people consider “prenup” to be a dirty word, but it can be a blessing in that it will help you and your new spouse facilitate financial communication. Not only can a prenuptial agreement be an effective tool for financially protecting you and your children from previous relationships, but it can give you a clearer view into your partner’s financial personality and money values, too. Although it can seem less than romantic, keep in mind that the idea behind a prenup is to ensure both partners – and their children – will be properly cared for in the event the marriage doesn’t last.

If you think a prenup may be right for you, consult a lawyer you trust. Remember that a prenup should help your marriage, not hinder it.

Step 3: Collectively Tackle Estate Planning

It can be uncomfortable to think about the end of your own life, or your spouse’s, but think of estate planning like writing a love letter to your family. Particularly when you are in a blended family, and you have children from a previous relationship, it is critical to ensure your wishes for your assets will be carried out and your family members are taken care of in the way you desire. You and your spouse should tackle your planning together so that nothing is left out and there is no room for a future “tug of war” between a surviving spouse and children from a previous marriage.

As you consider your estate, you should also make it a priority to establish:

Be sure that you work with financial and legal professionals to get all these legal documents in writing.

SEE ALSO: Three Financial Conversation Starters to Improve Your Relationship in the New Year

Step 4: Have Regular Financial Date Nights

As in any relationship, managing money matters in a blended family will take ongoing effort. Try for a monthly “financial date night” where you can discuss anything that has come up and ensure you’re on the same page. These are great times to discuss practical matters like bill paying, address evolving money values around issues like allowances for the kids, and have fun dreaming about future financial goals you both share.

Final Thoughts

Marriage can be complex, and so can money matters. When you’re facing both in a blended family scenario, it can be stressful and overwhelming. Remember that open communication is key to any healthy relationship and discussing your finances together can further strengthen your bond, too.

If you’d like professional assistance as you blend your finances with your new spouse’s, we’re happy to help! At Flourish Wealth Management, we understand the challenges around money and relationships, and we work to help our clients have better, more productive money conversations. Contact us today to schedule an initial conversation.

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